Advice for Young Men Part One: The Search For The Elusive Based Woman

You’ve been watching Vox Day, The Big Bear, and a myriad of other based personalities, and sit up amongst the Cheetos and scattered debris of your bachelor pad at three in the morning with a revelation. You want a better life and a good woman to make a family with. Then you look around at your options for potential partners excited to share life with a wonderful little lady. Reality comes slamming in as you see nothing, but blue armpit haired feminists, hedonists, globalists, satanists, and money grubbing hussies as far as the eye can see.

How do you find a quality woman? They seem to hide themselves more thoroughly than a leprechaun with three pots of gold. Where do you even start?

Well young man, you’ve come to the right place. I just so happened to have tracked down my own based beauty, and although no one can guarantee success I can share some of the hard learned fall on your face lessons, gut wrenching advice from elders, and truth bomb books passing down the knowledge of thousands of lost lads like yourself who finally found themselves. 

Right off the bat I’m going to give you the most convoluted advice this side of the apocalypse. Stop looking for a wife without confidence. I know, I know confusion is over nine thousand, but hear me out. If your life is nothing, but an endless pursuit of female companionship and a hollow husk outside of that pursuit then why should a woman stick around? If all you have to offer is that search then even if a nice lady gives you a chance she’ll leave you faster than you can say abandon ship on the titanic. Put simply, when all you do is attempt to pick up women you come off as desperate.

And your ship will be sinking if you come off desperate. A woman can smell desperation farther than a shark smells blood, and it repels her harder than a garlic farmer soaking crucifixes in holy water sends Dracula packing. So, how do you find a woman without looking for her?

I’m a fan of the build it, and it will come mentality. Before you can sell yourself to prospective mates you have to have something to sell even if all you have is the promise of more to come. Confidence is the polar opposite of desperation when it comes to the feminine mind, and nothing builds confidence then having something to be confident about.

Let’s explain the concept in another way. All men receive luck. Green lights on their way to work, or in this case running into an attractive lady. Only successful men act upon the opportunity when it lands in their laps. My advice for you is to concentrate on making yourself into a man of action who can whisk a lady away when that mutual spark strikes. More importantly you should become a good man who can treat a based woman how she deserves to be treated. 

I could be a snake oil salesman, telling you how to be confident to trick a woman to date you, but that’s as useless as painting a train tunnel on a wall and putting a track up to it. You're just setting yourselves up for a crash. Don’t be fake gentlemen. You might be able to trick the hussies at a singles’ bar with that act, but the kind of woman you’re fishing for will see through you faster than flash on steroids. 

This is the road less traveled. Hard self improvement not just exterior machinations. That said you shouldn’t use this as an excuse for cowardice. Sometimes you’re just going to have to jump in head first, and talk to a lady. Respectfully mind, but nonetheless don’t let the excuse of not having the perfect tool box stop you from fixing that obnoxious step that creaks in your house. 

You shouldn’t avoid women while improving. On the contrary you need to practice talking to them so you’re comfortable around them. However, treat it not as an attempt to jump in their pants or marry them for all eternity, but as two human beings conversing. Try it out. It’s also a great exercise in self control.

You may be wondering when you will be ready. The answer is it will be different for everyone, but most of the time after improving your confidence will be high enough that you won’t even hesitate to chat up an attractive lady. More to the point you’ll be confident to talk to a gorgeous woman, find her as rotten as five day old Chinese bat meat on the inside, and cut her loose knowing full well you can do better.

Alright, you’ve gotten this far, and you’re on board. Self improvement sounds great. Where do you start? Well, lets ask a few questions.

Where is your relationship with God? Where are you with reading the classics and furthering your self education? What career goals do you have, and what do you do with your life? How is your health? What do you want out of a wife, and what do you want to give her?

I’m going to explore most if not all of these questions in depth in future posts, but I think they give a good baseline for understanding where you're at, and what it is good women are searching for. If you answer these questions with a hard solid uncompromising slap to the face truth you’ll know what you need to work on. Again, through this process you should never hesitate to talk to women just treat them like humans until that spark happens.

Yes, I am well aware that the delicate balance between staying comfortable with women, concentrating on self improvement, and jumping on the spark and pursuing a lady deserves a whole post if not a book or too. But this post is on finding a based lady which requires being a good man she’ll consider dating when she runs into you. One step at a time gents.

Okay you say, but isn’t there a way to increase my chances of meeting a fabulous woman who shoves the narrative up the grabbler's oversized nose? There is, but understand that you need to have the right product to sell, or finding a based woman will be a fruitless venture. That said here are a couple of ways to enter the right hunting ground.

Cease and desist attempting to find the lady of your dreams at singles bars, tinder, and other dating web sites. Women in these places are not the ladies blessed with wisdom you’re looking for. This is the same as fishing for bass in a pond overrun with carp. You need to fish in the right pond son, and going to where the desperate, the stuck up, and the brainwashed ladies are is not the most efficient way to find a woman of character.

Ask yourself, of the relationships you aspire to emulate how many of them started out in a bar? Or a night club? I’m sure there are some, but generally that’s not where men find thier wives. My wife was a childhood friend who I reconnected to at a funeral, yes I know horrible taste on my part but like I said sometimes you just have to jump no matter the situation, for example. My father met my mom at church, my sister met my brother in law at work, the Big Bear met his lady while taking a walk in LA, and the list goes on and on. 

Last, but not least I’m going to steal some advice from Vox Day which I think is spot on the money. Move out of the city because the men and women who go to cities are not going there to settle down, but to have an adventure. So why hunt for deer where only rabbits forage? Move to the country, and start integrating yourself into the community. Get in those church barbecues, soft ball teams, sports clubs, or even get some coffee at the same shop so you can get to know the owners. Eventually, maybe even sooner then you think, you’ll run into a lady worth investing in. Best make sure you’re worth her time, or at the very least show potential when that happens. 

The last thing I would include is don’t be afraid of failure. Plenty of women will rebuff you in this process. Don’t let that drag you down. I married my wife after a myriad of women rebuffed me, and to be honest a few showing interest that I wish I’d ran from faster than illegals run from Trump’s border patrol boys. Don’t let fear and failure destroy you. There are literally billions of women on the planet. Stay the course, and concentrate on God and self improvement, and one day lady fortuna will smile upon you..

So let’s recap. Start with self improvement, talk to women like their human and not your next or first conquest, when the time is right and your confidence is built up jump be ready to pursue, and last of all avoid big cities, bars, singles’ clubs, and tinder type sites. These things are simple, practical, and take a massive amount of hard work to pull off. Gentlemen despite that, the results are far worth the effort. Come back for the next couple of posts as we explore ways to improve yourself as a man that the based woman is searching for.

I hope this helped those young men who want a piece of the original American Dream. Hang in there lads. God hasn’t forgotten you, and the ride never ends.

Click here for Advice For Young Men Part Two: Mindset is Everything